Sanity Saving Tip #2: Create a Weekly Meal Plan

Full week of meal Planning. B, S, L, S, D, Des = Breakfast, Snack, Lunch, Snack, Dinner, DESsert

A friend of mine came over the other day and said, “you actually meal plan?” She was referring to the notebook page paper on my refrigerator that lists out all of our meals for two weeks. Until this moment, I had not thought that was weird. But, I think (maybe my initial feeling was right) that it must be unusual because she had never seen one before. While I like to be organized, being a stay at home mom with four young kids three of them being under 1, most organization has gone out the window. But, the meal planning has not.

Some of my reasons for meal planning:

It saves money. I cannot begin to tell you the amount of times we’ve had to run to the grocery store for milk and walked out with an endless bounty of items. Guess what? Those items cost oodles of extra money, and it’s the conspiracy of grocery stores everywhere to get you to do this. Generally, at least for us those items aren’t included in the budget. Additionally, my son has a lot of allergies (when I say a lot I really just about everything), so we have to primarily eat meat, veggies and fruits. As most of you know, fruits and veggies actually get gross when they get overripe, meal planning helps me to ensure that we use the items we buy instead of literally throwing them in the garbage.

It cuts calories. As a woman with junk in the trunk, I’m determined never to crash diet again. For me, it’s about lifestyle change, but I’ll go back to junk food every time over and over again if I don’t have a plan. Meal planning helps me to plan out what snacks we actually keep in the house and what food we eat and when.

It saves time. Remember that part about stopping in at the grocery store and having three kids under one? Well, try to grocery shop with them. It is a drain on time. A quick trip to the store for milk should take a normal person about 10 minutes. With my little entourage we’d take about 40 minutes because someone would poop in their diaper, one would be throwing fits as we walk down the aisle, my youngest would probably puke all over himself or be screaming, and my four year old would most likely be begging for everything under the sun. It’s not fun! I try to plan out two weeks, so I can minimize my time spent in the grocery store.

It saves sanity. Thus, its in this section. But, dinnertime is our hardest time of the day because my husband is just getting home or is working late and isn’t home at all. I don’t have time to look in the fridge for something last minute because there are no minutes left and my kids are hungry and cranky. By having a meal plan, I don’t have to stress. I can make parts of it throughout the day or throw it in the crockpot. Even better, I can pull it from the freezer, heat, and eat.

Although my meal planning is not foul proof here’s some steps I’ve learned for making the most of it:

1. Plan from your pantry and fridge/freezer first. Get the most out of your grocery bill. That jar of spaghetti sauce that’s been sitting there for awhile–use it this week! Additionally, whenever, I go to the grocery store I shop the “clearance” meat section first. Although, I already have my 2 week meal plan based on the meats in my freezer, I’ll put these new clearanced meats in my freezer and plan my following next two weeks around them.

Thanks onefrugalmomma.com for the pic

picture taken from onefrugalmomma.com

2. Use similar items. If I buy broccoli, to maximize it’s freshness, I’ll have it day 1 as a side to chicken. The following night I’ll chop and put it in a broccoli potato soup, and we may have it again in a stir fry. 3 completely different uses is my goal.

3. Shop sales advertisements. Try to build your menu around what is in season and sale, you’ll save more money.

4. Buy bulk. Chickens on sale this week for $1.88/lb if you buy 10 lbs. Buy 10 lbs and freeze into smaller portions. There’s hundreds of things you can do with it.

5. Eat leftovers. I know, most people don’t like them, but just think that little bit just saved you more money and more time. My plan is to always have a few portions left over so we can eat them for lunch the next day. Dinner is always a fresh plan, lunch is yesterdays meal. You can also repurpose your leftovers. That spaghetti sauce you made today and have a little leftover can also be used for lasagna tomorrow or freeze it for lasagna next week. We use carne asada one night for tacos and the next morning we have it with eggs. Get creative.

6. Remember to plan meals around events. For example, if my son has swimming on thursday nights or my husband works closing I’m more likely to choose something easy to make OR I make a crockpot meal.

7. Plan snacks. Remember that part about wanting to have lifestyle change? Portion control and planning out snack foods is a part of it. When I have the time, I take the bag of chips I rarely buy, and seperate into portions and put into small ziploc bags. This not only saves me from overeating, but also makes snacks on the go easier for my kids. The packages are kept in baskets in my pantry.I also will do this with fruit and veggies and keep in baskets in my fridge. This also saves money because you aren’t running out and purchasing food when you go places.

8. Try to make one new recipe. I always have a collection of cookbooks or recipes I want to make, but never have the ingredients. Meal planning guarantees you will have it.

9. If you plan for two weeks you can always cook double the amount and freeze half for the following week.  (see Sanity Saving Tip #1)

10. Sometimes I cheat and use a meal planner as a guide. Join Sparkpeople for free meal plans, weight loss goals, exercise/fitness tracker remember to say chamberschaos referred you when you signed up.  They seriously are amazing and you know it’s good for you.

 

What are some things you do to make meal planning and meals more effective?

Hunger Pains

This morning my four and a half year old tells me for the hundredth time, “I’m hungry”.

Chelle Nicole Photography

And I respond for the hundredth time, “Oren, you just ate breakfast, a big one. You had eggs, toast, sausage, and apple juice. You can finish the rest of your juice and eggs if your still hungry I put them in the fridge”.

His response is ALWAYS the same, no matter what, “But, mom, I’m not hungry for those things. I’m hungry for something else. Can I just have a different snack?”

As a mom this scenario is ALWAYS frustrating. How is it that my four year believes himself hungry, but I just fed him and he can’t distinguish the difference between real hunger and boredom or the desire for something that will taste good on his tongue for a few moments.

I wonder if my soul and my life reflect the same conversation with God, “Abba (dear father in Aramaic), I’m hungry.”

And he responds for the hundreth time, “Ashley, you have breakfast, it’s on the bookshelf. Quiet your soul and get fed.”

Then I, like my son, start the whiny voice, “But, Abba, I’m not hungry for those things. I’m hungry for something else. Can I just have something else?”

While, I might not really have this conversation with God in words, I’m certain that at moments and times in my life we’ve had this conversation and I’ve proven that I am a whiny little child in and through my actions.

I’ve sought after wealth. It didn’t make me full.

I’ve sought after family. It didn’t make me full.

I’ve sought after perfection. It didn’t make me full (or perfect).

I’ve sought after a happy marriage. It didn’t make me full or happy because it didn’t fill.

I’ve sought after a great many things, too many to list. And, it didn’t make me full.

And, although those things all can be good and great,what I’m finding is that God is always right. When I pull out the Bible from the bookshelf and I begin to eat my fill, I am satisfied. I’m full. I’m content.

Paul also learned that. In Philippians 4:10-14 he says, “I’m glad in God, far happier than you would ever guess—happy that you’re again showing such strong concern for me. Not that you ever quit praying and thinking about me. You just had no chance to show it. Actually, I don’t have a sense of needing anything personally. I’ve learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances. I’m just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. I’ve found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am. “

Then you know what happens? When I am full of the right things, I feel wealthy even when I’m the poorest I’ve been since we first married. I feel blessed beyond measure by a family that is amazing. I’m still not perfect, but I’m free to be okay with my imperfections. And, I have a happy marriage because being happy isn’t my first priority anymore.

Jesus said, “Everyone who drinks this water will get thirsty again and again. Anyone who drinks the water I give will never thirst—not ever. The water I give will be an artesian spring within, gushing fountains of endless life.” (John 4:13-14)

What are you filling up on lately?

Honeymooners

When I pull out our wedding pictures, I reminisce about that day.  I think of the beauty of our wedding, the tranquility of it, and how great it felt to be marrying the man who had been my highschool sweetheart. Our wedding was amazing–neither one of us would change it at all.

And, of course, as I look through those pictures, I also get to see how skinny I used to be, how tan I was (that is tan for me–I spent 3 months tanning for the white to turn ivory), and how much my husband has changed in appearance.

Looking through these wedding pictures also makes me laugh, as I remember that although this day was full of bliss–just a few days later we’d be experiencing probably the worst honeymoon possible.

Everything went wrong right from the start. After leaving our wedding through a beautiful spray of white sparklers, we realized en route to our hotel that Cole’s drivers license had gone missing. In post 9/11 America, this would be a HUGE problem getting on our flight to Hawaii the following day. So, instead of basking in our new found love, we spent the next hour and a half on cell phones with his parents and extended family trying to locate missing ID, followed by airlines and hotels (our reservations were in Cole’s name) trying to figure out how we were going to be able to make travel without ID possible.

Our flight was set to leave at 7:06 am. Whose real BRIGHT IDEA was that? (I’m assuming some Chambers men are the ones who are responsible for this–and I may still hold a slight grudge) The morning after our wedding, after having stayed up til midnight just trying to locate a driver’s license, we overslept and only had 45 minutes til our flight left the concourse. I don’t think we have ever moved so fast in our lives! We barely and I do mean barely made that flight to Honolulu.

We arrived at our first hotel exhausted, cranky, and extremely drenched, yes drenched. Us, Seattle-ites just happened to arrive in Honolulu in the longest rain stretch Hawaii had experienced in 40 years. Let’s just say my husband, an optimist, was not being very successful at convincing his new wife that this was going to be okay that we would have a great time regardless of the rain.

My favorite “worst honeymoon experience” came when we had to switch hotels. My husband had the great idea that we should be able to walk between hotels and save ourselves some money. So, we packed up our large rolling suitcase, 2 carry-ons, umbrella and coat that were purchased on locale due to rain, and our already purchased trinkets and treasures and headed down the boulevard with our map in hand. Remember that part about my husband being the optimist? 

According to the map it was not far, but about 2.5 miles down the strip, completely drenched, and 3 taxis having stopped to ask if we wanted a ride, I was done. I screamed at my husband, “I don’t care anymore about saving money! We don’t have a joint bank account yet and so I’m using MY money and paying for a taxi. YOU ARE FREE TO WALK!”

I flagged down a taxi and as the driver was loading my luggage, my husband handed his luggage to the driver and got in. It was silent the entire remaining 2 miles. Cole didn’t say a thing as the driver said, “$5.45, please” and Cole sheepishly handed over the cash.

A few other things happened, over the next few days our hotel flooded, we lost my cell phone, we swore off sex for the rest of our lifetime, I left the hotel room crying, we almost couldn’t stay in a hotel because Cole didn’t have ID, and I needed to go  ”for a walk” to call my best friend for moral support.

Not exactly the sandy warm beaches and tropical drinks I had in mind.

My honeymoon wasn’t all bad though. Because of the rain we enjoyed all the touristy stuff by ourselves, we had 45 minutes of sunshine total and we did find ourselves learning about each other. I learned that my husband is always optimistic, and that despite his frugality, he is generous with his time, life and that he’ll always give his change to homeless people. I learned my husband is always my best friend, and that it’s better to go with the flow. I learned that hotel rooms are great places to have discussions late into the night about hopes and dreams. And, I learned that marriage is hard work!

Little did I know that my week long chaotic honeymoon, would turn into a lifelong adventure of chaos. That those few lessons that we learned that week would grow and shape us and be a strong foundation for our marriage to build. And even bigger is that through the midst of all the chaos of our lives over the last six years, that God would be working to make it beautiful.

Phillipians 4:9 says, “Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.”

What are we doing now? We have begun a piggy bank “Never go to Hawaii in March Fund.”  We are accepting donations.

Cultivating Thankfulness

As I mentioned in my last blog The Game, right now I’m trying to cultivate thankfulness for the many wonderful things God is doing in my life. I’m also reading “A Good and Beautiful God” by James Brian Smith and he challenges us to “Soul Train” ourselves by doing a different thing each week (I’ll post a book review later). This weeks challenge is to make a list of mundane things we are thankful that we usually overlook in our life. Cole (my husband) and I are planning on posting these in our house in a visible spot and adding to them for our own benefit. IF you come over and notice lists of things all over our house…well…we’ve just decided were going to be thankful for a lot of things

Here’s my list of things I’m thankful for:

  • the ability to read
  • Cole teaching our kids God’s ways
  • unexpected surprises
  • having coffee made for me in the morning
  • friends that show up when life gets hard
  • a bouquet of flowers
  • a running car
  • smell of fresh laundry
  • sleeping in a freshly made bed
  • dirty summer feet
  • Oren’s logic and sense of humor
  • Cadie’s gap toothed smile and ability to conquer things by sheer determination
  • Addie’s sensitivity and view of the world
  • Judah cuddling and cooing
  • my husbands passion and character
  • sunshine breaking through the curtains
  • a great song blaring in the car
  • 1940′s music
  • the smell of snow
  • showers (come on they are amazing)
  • patterned socks
  • waking up on my own
  • freshly painted toenails
  • sleeping babies
  • my husbands affection
  • my dad’s hands
  • my dad’s heart
  • my mom’s service to her family (or anyone really)
  • mada’s friendship
  • Juicy’s sense of humor
  • Abby’s inquisitive mind
  • my kids laughing
  • Daniel’s affection for my sister
  • my in laws encouragement
  • my kids grandparents
  • strong marriages
  • candles flickering
  • the smell of dinner in the oven
  • a good glass of wine
  • German food
  • a really good donut
  • alone time
  • silence
  • the mess of my kids after a day of solid play
  • great memories
  • a hard workout
  • Jayme faces
  • my kids meeting me at the door when I’ve only been gone for 10 min
  • writing
  • a good thrift store find
  • catching up over coffee
  • excitement and eagerness to learn
  • a great novel
  • a good cry
  • Clint’s sense of humor
  • Caleb’s servant heart

I have a lot to be thankful for, what mundane things are you thankful for that you often overlook?